MORE TO COME

Aligned relating simply flows.

A gentle,

forward momentum.

One moment please,

each moment real,

Accept each for what it gifts.

The Right Relationship Isn’t Work.

I used to believe relationships were supposed to be hard…

that love meant effort, sacrifice, constantly proving yourself, constantly fixing things, constantly trying to be enough for someone else.

And the truth is…

a lot of people are still living in that endless co dependent insecure loopy loop. Around and around they go.

Attached to thinking the mindless struggle is part of the love story.

Attached to thinking challenges result is conflict.

Attached to thinking they are unable to catch their own energy early. Pause, relax, STFU and self regulate.

Intentional Relationships that align are simple.

Intentional relationships that align are easy.

Intentional relationships that align have challenges, but those challenges NEVER result in conflict.

Why?

Because you attune to your own beauty and realise, it is only a dis integrated ego, a far from whole ego, that wants to be right, that must compete to win, that must dominate with an insecure, insincere, vapid verbosity. Why even invite in such egotistical, self ignorant, needless suffering?

Yes, relationships take awareness, growth, and accountability.

Basically dismiss the self ignorance.

Basically drop the insecure misogynistic mansplaining.

Basically ditch the need to control, be right and be an unkind, domineering asshole.

It all starts with an active intentional listening.

A receptive, expansive. slowing down.

Firstly Within.

But there’s a stark difference between growing together and constantly fighting just to feel okay.

Real Relationships should be bliss.

Relationships are meant to be your absolute safe place to come fully undone without prejudice, shame or trepidation.

There’s a vast difference between INTENTIONALLY showing up for each other and losing yourself trying to keep something alive that naturally doesn’t flow.

Why force a square peg into a round hole?

Sounds pain full.

Sounds friction full.

Sounds like walking on egg shells.

Maybe your nightly baby alcohol bottle tells you to lubricate and get pissed so you both stop caring?

To ease the disconnect?

To lubricate,

to stop the friction of fear?

To loosen up the lips to dribble falsities?

When you’re BOTH intentionally FULLY within an aligned relationship, you both don’t need artificial intelligence.

Of a nightly attached mind fear full baby bottle.

You BOTH don’t feel like you have to loosen up with artificial aids to perform to be loved.

You BOTH don’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

You BOTH don’t feel drained trying to maintain something that keeps slipping through your hands.

INSTEAD?

You BOTH feel grounded.

You BOTH feel heard.

You BOTH feel steady.

You BOTH feel safe.

You both feel attuned to each others fullness.

No force.

No manipulation.

No dominance.

No crazy immature conflicts of a dis integrated immature out of control mind attached ego.

You feel seen without having to explain yourself over and over.

You feel safe enough to be fully you…

not an artificially lubricated version of you that’s been edited to keep the peace.

You see each other without pretence.

You hear each other, intentionally.

You heart connect not mind attach.

A gentle,

Forward momentum.

Balanced,

Cyclical,

Scenic AND joyous!

Saddle up! 😂

There’s a gracious, relaxed, calm that is ever present…

not boredom… but peace.

Not force… but relaxed.

Not dominance… but equality.

And most people don’t trust that at first because they’ve been conditioned to think love has to be intense to be real.

They fall for the surface dwelling chemical romance.

They get sucked in by lust.

They think sex is intimacy.

They fall hard and fast and before you know it they are fuck buddies like tinder revolving doors.

And here’s the part people don’t want to hear… if you’ve only experienced love that felt like work, attached mind chaos can start to feel normal. You put up with. You people please. You tolerate. You let the friction full square peg jam the round hole. Far too tolerant. Far too intellectually elevated and perfectionist.

You can mistake emotional exhaustion for passion.

You can convince yourself that the highs and lows are what make it meaningful.

You begin to tolerate disrespect just so you say you’ve got something…

But authentic aligned love doesn’t need to exhaust you to prove it exists.

It meets you…

it holds you…

it expands you without controlling or competing or convincing you and breaking you down first.

From love doesn’t ask you to abandon yourself just to keep it. To mind attach to a dominant far from whole insecure control freak. Vapid verbosity. Tepid and trained. Domesticated and chained. Staid, stuck and cloistered. None sense. Dogma, stigma and insecurity.

Two whole people do not complete each other…

You both are already full of your own true nature!

Already full and overflowing.

Not trying hard to dominate, push, force or prove.

You both meet each other at a level where you’re BOTH already whole. NOTHING TO PROVE AT ALL.

Not insecure,

not insincere,

no vapid verbosity,

not needy, greedy or seedy.

At all.

From love not for love.

Wildly free