Conscious Communication and Parental Connection May Look Something Like This.

Conscious Communication may look something like this:
🔸Be present!

Put down your phone or whatever you're doing so you can focus.

🔸Breathe slowly. Remain grounded and centred.

🔸Listen. Truly listen. Be interested. Seek clarification. Ask questions if appropriate.

🔸Look for an unmet need, unheard feeling, or limiting belief beneath the behaviour. (behind your child's and your trigger)

🔸Sincerely care. Empathize and Validate. With yourself internally and your child externally.

🔸If you feel calm communicate your feeling, need, or request clearly without using threats, shame, blame, or criticism.

🔸If you don't feel calm, ask to have some time to think.

🔸Connect to yourself. It’s good to feel all your emotions & validate them for yourself.

🔸 When reconnected to yourself go and help your child do the same.
🔸Reconnect with your child. Find time to be and share together. (Play, read, walk, create a meal or artwork together....anything you will both enjoy)
✨Most of the time connection replaces the need for correction.✨
🔸 When your child and you are both regulated you can problem-solve together.
(This may mean you change your mind now that you have a better understanding but it doesn't mean going against your core values or intuition. Hold your boundary empathetically.)

🧡 Lelia.

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