Co Creating The Next Next of Now

"Many parents command the behaviour they want to see their kids complete...and then wonder why their children don’t seem to listen or remember it. ⁠

Curiosity questions help us get into our child’s world by learning to really listen and “draw forth” rather than trying to “stuff in.”

Curiosity questions not only help our children develop the critical thinking skills necessary for making decisions in life, but they also help our children feel a sense of belonging and significance – their voice and their viewpoint are heard and valued.⁠

Sometimes curiosity questions can be very simple (one question). Sometimes, they can involve more questions to help children explore the consequences of the choices (as opposed to imposing consequences on them).⁠

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Notice your own resistance to just listening without trying to fix it or change a thing.

Notice how difficult it is to listen to what your child has to say without wanting him or her to give you the answer you hope they will give.

Practice the act of listening anyway…again, and again, and again.⁠"

~ via Synergy Parenting

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"To carry psychological problems from day to day is an utter waste of time and energy, indicating negligence. 

A diligent mind meets a problem as it arises, observes the nature of it and resolves it immediately. 

The carrying over of a psychological problem does not resolve the problem. It is a waste of energy and spirit. 

When you solve problems as they arise, then you will find there are no problems at all." 

—Krishnamurti
From The Whole Movement of Life is Learning