Intimate, Potent, Aligned and Kind. Also Demisexual AF.

S L O W S E N S U A L M A G I C A L M U S E ~ o p e n p o t e n t, k i n d a l i g n e d

Signs that show that you may be a Demi Sexual:

1). Friendship is a huge part of your relationship

If you are a demi sexual, then you want to connect with someone on all levels: mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. You are looking for someone with whom you can be completely naked -in the body and in mind. You want to take your time to know someone and let the relationship grow organically. You do not rush into a relationship with someone until you have formed a solid friendship with them. You value emotional support, open communication, comfort and trust in your relationships. You need to feel the ease, comfort, and warmth of friendship before you start liking someone or feel sexually attracted to someone.

2). You enjoy physical love once emotionally connected

You are not repulsed by the idea of making out but you enjoy it only under specific conditions. Making love is enjoyable to you when you feel an emotional bond or mental compatibility with someone. Physical love for you is the form of deeply connecting with someone. It is the expression of love and intimacy that you feel for your partner and physical touch serves as a medium to get to know and appreciate your partner better.

3). The idea of sleeping with someone is more exciting to you than the idea of making love

You love intimacy in relationships. You could spend the entire night cuddling up with your partner or stargazing or just reading books with them and not miss having being physical. You crave emotional intimacy in relationships.

\4). You have always felt different while growing up.

You’ve always felt like an outsider. While your friends were fascinated with their crushes and first kisses, these things did not interest you. You were more interested in human behaviour and personality traits and forming friendships.

5). Your attraction towards someone is not just based on looks

For you a big part of liking someone is knowing their overall personality, you do not get turned on simply by good looks and therefore dating apps like Tinder do not work for you. You get turned on by personality traits like wit, kindness, and intelligence and you don’t get how people can just swipe right and left on the basis of surface appearance and then decide their potential mates.

6). You’re a sapiosexual and get high on conversations

“If your thoughts cannot touch my soul,

then do not bother to reach for my flesh."

~ Julie Moon

If you are a demisexual then you will closely relate to being sapiosexual. You get turned on by intelligent, seamless conversations that range across and through eclectic topics. You care about how energy aligns and flows, not whether perfect breasts or six-pack abs are also involved. A demisexual partner appeals as you share in and deeply engage in organic, real and raw conversations. Possibly on 'taboo" topics like politics, religion and inner dreams and fantasy, including sexual fantasies. For you, an open heart and aligned compatible life values (not identical, just aligned) are important priorities.

7). Liking someone for you is a big deal

It’s so difficult and rare for you to like someone because you look for deeper connections and intimacy and therefore when you actually like someone you know it’s The Real Deal. You never take your feelings for granted and are quite expressive and affectionate once you find a like-minded partner. Your relationship is based on a strong foundation of mutual respect, trust, and genuine connection and you do your best to nurture it. To Be vulnerable and Humanly Imperfect with a humble and grateful Wholeness For Life, matter. To You Both.

8). Happiness is Their Responsibility and a Moment To Moment Choice.

You take your time to develop a relationship but once you do choose, you’re totally committed to the relationship. Without losing your Self. Once an aligned energy (the "right" person) enters your life, you love with no holds barred. You prioritise and support their choices of happiness, without becoming their source of happiness. Their Happiness is still their responsibility and you each remain inter dependent sovereign Beings. But you openly and mutually share and support each others non harmful happiness choices. A growing and forever deepening relationship requires teamwork and nurturing and you give it your all. Plus wicked laughter, music and spontaneous moments of quirky madness.

9). Meaningful relating.

While some may think that you are a loner, your truth through lived experience and past successful relationships, is that only mature and deep connection matter. Your intention, word and action comes "From Love, Not For Love". You are imperfectly content, accept and know your own limits, set boundaries, express your needs and are aware of where your growth remains as you openly journey towards "wholeness". You know what you deserve and will not settle for less, a reciprocal aligned energy. You choose not to be in a surface level mindless, immature, codependent convenience where there may still be considerable inner work. You already are someone who is both your safe grounded home and biggest spontaneous adventure. You already are someone who is both a best friend and passionate lover. You already are someone who will discerningly and graciously call you out on any remaining "blind spots" that you feel You openly invite and accept another to offer the same gift. You also laugh easily at your Self firstly and together. A Lot. You only choose to be fully intimate with someone who is surrendered to their higher source, nature, God or whatever they choose to call it, and who aligns mentally and emotionally.

10). You Own and Embody Imagination and Fantasies.

A demisexual is not asexual or disinterested in being physically intimate. You choose to Be slowly sensual towards not only love making, but all open playfulness in all aspects of communication and growing the relationship. This is a non negotiable priority for you. You make love to mind, body, and soul. As do they. You like to play and experiment with life as love in a mutually safe heart space. You listen and feel into the current energy and if consensually aligned, nothing is off limits. Especially spontaneous flows of energy in the moment. No Thing is premeditated or manipulated. Direct and clear and simple. In The Moment. You like both The Adventurous Edge and returning to The Calm Centre. You co create this. You engage in deeper levels of energy work and somatic healing touch comes naturally. You explore fantasies and enjoy touch that goes beyond the body. You graciously challenge each other to open more deeply to life and allow creative juices in all aspects of life to flow in the moment. You laugh together. Often.

11). Others May think you have too high standards.

Others who do not know you, or friends who may judge you through their relationship choices, may think you have too high standards. Whereas in reality, you are just not interested in surface level mindless hook ups.

You prefer to Be patient as to you sex IS the last thing on your mind,

Not because intimacy does not matter, but the exact inverse is true for you.

Creating and expressing and sharing intimate LOVE is The Most Important aspect of a soul to soul, body to body, connection.

You are physically exchanging energies at the closest human level and absorbing whatever energy is present in the other.

That is why sex matters.

That is why surface sex is the last thing on your mind, because co creating love does not come from The Mind.

Love is unmanifested and has no cause, it originates in a far more infinite eternal place.

As a human Being You sponge in The Others energy during love creating You become The Other.

Whatever energy they carry, you exchange and absorb.

You feel this energy of physical love as a sacred connection.

You absolutely enjoy and honour this mutual energy exchange each and every time.

You adore, respect and love the consciously chosen partner. (plus if the mood prevails, a morning glory before work is also just fiiiine!)

Therefore, You laugh together. A Lot.

12) You don’t understand the desperation of the hookup culture.

While friends may successfully find partners in bars or dating apps, you don’t choose this hookup culture. It is ok if that choice suits them, but it is not your priority or choice. The concept of hanging out with a others at a bar or meeting intentionally online and then knowing you are "working towards" possibly being intimate with them is something you can’t wrap your mind around. This choice to you reeks of neediness. To you, this hook up culture is a desperation to avoid loneliness.

Looking for love in another to fill you up, not firstly being a whole over flowing love of self.

Hook ups come from a lack, come from a deficit cup, The love with no cause comes from being fully content and happy as LOVE, firstly with Self.

For you, the probability of finding a partner by intuitive feeling and energetic alignment in a completely unexpected location is real.

You simply know you will not find the love you already are in a hook up bar or online dating app.

You prefer to chill out with friends over coffee or have a quirky conversation with a stranger to get to know them better than intentionally flirt in a bar with drunken strangers, Especially not with a view to have sex and/or find a "relationship".

Deep foundations, aligned energy and core life values on which a whole relationship is established, matter to you.

Plus, you laugh together.

A Lot.

Have I already said that?

Goooood!

"Intimate, Potent, Kinky and Kind.

Also Demisexual

A.F."