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via mindfulmft "I’m not talking about one offs, I’m talking about agreements (spoken or not) where couples avoid disagreements or conflict of any kind to keep the peace and likely avoid the things that are coded as stressful or threatening. Agreeing to never disagree is one of the ways that a couple can maintain pseudo-intimacy. It’s a tricky one, for sure, because on the surface it looks and feels quite lovely. But avoiding it blocks us from intimacy. It blocks us from leaning in and understanding more about the self and more about the other. Never disagreeing can block growth, expansion, and a deep sense of connection that comes on the other side of navigating confronting things. Hang with me here. Sometimes we do this because conflict is coded as dangerous, scary, or not worth it. Maybe we grew up in a family system where members were high conflict without any resolution. Maybe a parent or sibling was abusive. Maybe what happened during and after conflict is something we...

Do we keep going round because we don't know we can get off the ride? Do we keep going round because we don't know we can get off the Drama Llama? Do we keep going round because we don't know we can get off the spinning hampster wheel? One part of me, the part that is crazy, the part that loves going in circles, round and round Loves The Drama of Life. The part of me that enjoys the thrill of The Never Ending Ride, The Story of The Circuitous Drama, The Busyness of Spinning Wheels. I have been well conditioned. I have followed the crowd. I have done as I'm Told (and sold...) Do it again! Do it again! Do it again! Spin Me Right Round... ad naseum. Possibly 'till I puke... or I'm broke. Or declared mentally ill. Or grossly dis-eased... Kept spinning by those with vested interests in keeping me ill, or sick or spinning. But faaaaaark, Externally Spinning Wheels are so goddam tiring.... or deadly... eventually. The other part of me rejects this spinning re...